We must be honest about who we are first

Honesty is one of the most liberating gifts we can ever give to ourselves because when are honest, we realise how easy it is to live. How easy it is to go to sleep at night and wake up in the morning without worrying about what we did the moment before. Honesty allows us to walk through life with little to no concern about what people will do or say but sometimes we confuse honesty with blurting out statements that are based on our own egotistical insecurities and not based on our inner truths.

When we are confronted with a situation that causes us to reflect on ourselves, we are being given an opportunity to heal but if we use that opportunity to point our finger at someone else for where  we find ourselves, we will find that eventually that finger pointing and accusation will come back to haunt us. We will find that we become more like the little boy who cried wolf. Eventually people will stop listening to us and instead will begin to see the cracks in the blame story we are carrying around with us. Eventually they will see that the story we are fabricating is actually a story about ourselves rather than a story about anyone else. Particularly the person we are trying to blame.

We need to remember that honesty must come from a place where we truly know its intent is pure not one to disguise the truth. Accuse or alienate. Just by telling someone how we feel about a situation does not mean that everything will go back to how it was. Sometimes it means the other person gets to understand more about who we are and then they can decide if they want to be in our space or not. Because sometimes our truth is not their truth. Sometimes our truth has more to do with the story we are telling ourselves than what we believe is actually the story about the other person.

When people start walking out of our lives or if we discover that we are facing the same issues and same types of people over and over again, we have to start examining ourselves to see what it is about our energy that is attracting these same people and events. Because those people who can help us the most will start to walk away from us and not even look back because they will sense our impure energy. They will sense no matter what they say about us, we will never be able to see it because we are so driven by ego that the truth about who we are and what we are projecting can never be seen by us.

Who we are, honestly are, is reflected in the energy we project. Not the words we speak. Not the way we look but rather in the essence of our very existence. People can feel who we are before we even speak. People are attracted to us by what they sense about us way before they even hear us say a word. So it is important for us to be honest about who we are before we can even attempt to be honest about anyone else or anything else. And that is why honesty begins with us and extends out beyond when we know who we are. And when we embrace who we are, honesty becomes the greatest gift we can ever give to ourselves. Honestly.